Archive for September, 2010

It’s so easy to be nice to the easy people.  Throw a smile at a stranger, a co-worker, a neighbor.  But have you ever tried to be nice to the difficult people?  Why are they so difficult?  And why do they seem to show up in our families, on the road in front of us?  Because they are in the most pain….if you remember that people don’t really want to be difficult, then  it becomes an act of compassion.  If  we understood that every difficult person had an ache or pain in their body or mind, maybe we would be more gentle, maybe we wouldn’t be defensive, or offensive.  Maybe we would try to heal their pain.  Maybe we would say, “I’m sorry, let me help you, what can I do for you, I really want you to be happy, what do you need, let me help you.”  If we looked at every being as if they were our child, would we have more patience? 

If we looked at others as if they could be our friend, would we be more kind?  Would we try to help ease their pain?  That is compassion….that leads to our own bliss.  Every time we try to heal the pain of others, we heal our own hearts. We lift our spirit.  Have you ever tried it? 

Tomorrow, tell a loved one how important they are, especially the difficult ones.  Tell a stranger they look nice.  Let a car get in front of you, and then be patient if they drive below the speed limit.  Slow down, look in someones eyes, listen before answering.  Feel someones pain with out pity.  Shed tears of joy.  Live in the moment.  Because the present moment is a gift…..that’s why it’s called present…..